The Marriage Gene Blog

  My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers. A note from James Russell Lingerfelt: Mr. Gerald Rogers’ article stirred a wide variety of feelings among people across the globe. Helped and encouraged thousands infuriated few. We read letters from women in Malaysia comforting women in England. Men in USA and […]

  Fifty YourTango Experts share their best marriage advice. Here are what may well be the 50 best marriage tips ever. If your goal is to have a satisfying marriage with longevity, make sure you are accountable for the part you play in the relationship — good or bad. When you are in denial about your […]

Five years ago, I went on a search to answer the question: What can people do to have a happy, fulfilling, lifelong marriage? I sought out an unusual source of information, however. I didn’t ask psychologists or consult self-help gurus. Instead, I decided to go to the people with the most experience: older Americans who […]

You don’t have to discover all the things that make a marriage work by trial and error. How do I know if I’m ready to marry? Do you love this other person so much that you are willing to lay down your life for him or her and are ready to put their happiness before […]

The 10 Early Warning Signals No, it’s not a typo. We really did mean to write IDD rather than ADD. While IDD is a serious and potentially relationship-threatening condition, you won’t find it listed in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual). IDD or Intimacy Deficiency Disorder is a widespread phenomenon that affects vast numbers of […]

A conversation with the author of What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage: Q: You write that all couples enter marriage with some unrealistic expectations. Isn’t this something you resolve in premarital counseling? Paul David Tripp: I wish it were that easy! But it’s almost as though each potential husband and wife is […]

Seek pre-marital counseling If you are thinking of getting married be sure to seek pre-marital counseling. Most pastors will require it before performing the ceremony, but don’t be afraid to seek counsel from multiple sources. Get advice from your elders In addition to actual counseling, your parents and other older adults who have marriage experience […]